Hi Arvarna....banana (I saw you signed one of your other posts like this which I thought was pretty funny
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I feel the issue that you have raised in this thread is awesome and I'd love to share some of my feelings on this.
Firstly, thanks for your honesty because I feel what you have described in your post is happening with a lot of people. I feel a number of people are holding back from engaging specifically due to their fears of receiving feedback, getting a strike or being banned. Even by reflecting intellectually, we can see that any time we listen to what our fear dictates us to do, we are out of harmony with love and truth.
I feel there are two things going on at the moment with some people:
1) A number of people, like what you have mentioned about yourself, are reading stuff (which is great) and would love to post but are very hesitant in posting and contributing to the discussion out of not wanting to be addictive, unloving etc.
2) People are posting "neutrally." By this I mean they are posting from almost a safe place and the nature of their posts are usually directing people to a DT video or something along those lines. While this is really useful, they are not allowing themselves to be known by others personally if all or the majority of their posts are like this.
I feel there are probably a number of fears at play (e.g. not wanting to feel as though they have been publicly humiliated/embarrassed/ostracised if they receive feedback, fear of making a "mistake" but to name a few) which cause people to approach forum posting in one of the two above ways, or both.
For me, I guess it comes down to sincerity and how much we want to progress further than we currently are. I created the forum so that people had the chance to share their thoughts, feelings and experiences with others in a
loving and safe environment. People who register and engage in the potential of the forum will learn a lot of things pretty quickly if they are humble to the experience and see it as an experiment. By approaching forum posting in one of the two above fashions, I feel that people miss an awesome opportunity to learn more about themselves, miss out on the potential of assisting others as well as a number of other amazing benefits (some of which I don't really know the extent of). If you think about it, why register to a forum and then not post...it doesn't make any logical sense really as you are then, in essence, the equivalent as a guest of the forum!
I feel it is normal to take your time with writing out posts. I feel this is a good thing actually because it gives you the time to feel about the feelings that may be potentially driving your posts anyway and this is something Mary spoke of in her intro thread.
Maybe if people were receiving feedback here in a hostile, aggressive or criticising manner, then I would understand the apprehension in not wanting to post but in reality, you are only really opening yourself up to the feedback/feelings/other viewpoints of Jesus, Mary, myself and other forum members. I'd like to think all of us here aren't that bad and scary! It is all done in good faith and it is more for educational and informative motivations to demonstrate love and truth. Even then, if somebody else here does respond to you in an unloving manner, they would be liable to the consequences of their actions.
Honestly, I love any time I receive feedback and see it as a gift. It opens me up to stuff I didn't know beforehand and I see it almost as a fast track way of progressing if I remain humble to it all. It's a bit of a cheating way to progress really, if that makes sense
If you look at the strikes forum category, the majority of the strikes were issued because of the resistance people had to hearing somebody else's view/feedback that was received and not taking the time to personally reflect following answers that they received in response to their own thread or questions. A strike would not usually result from a standard post unless it was blatantly attacking or unloving. If I did feel an addiction in a post of yours for example, I would reply to your thread or your post in somebody else's thread and let you know of my feelings so that you could consider it, rather than issuing an amber strike right away. If you have received feedback and continue acting in the same manner, then yes you would be open to the possibility of receiving a strike. Also remember that strikes can be removed/revoked too depending on whether the person in question focuses on healing that behaviour internally.
Although the word "strike" does usually have a lot of negative feeling attached to it for most people (like the word SIN for example), I see it as just a simple way of saying "BIG FEEDBACK POINT/AREA FOR ME TO WORK ON HERE."
Hope that helps and clears any stuff up for you and to anyone else.
Cheers
Nicky