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Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 9:09 pm
by Vivi
- Courtney - the quote you posted of Jesus talking that a child will feel it and not care of its surroundings is what exactly what got me going today. I watched this same video and it hit me very deep. It helped to feel my emotion and I was emotional constipated due to fear of others hearing and me not wanting to own and feel my emotion. That is exactly what I felt like telling her, this same quote. It was a huge help.

Today I had two huge loa hits. I went to the 2 job interviews the first one is for I job I'd hate to be doing, pays less, works more. The second pays more, it's more fun and people seemed happy and valued there.

The first job accepted me on the spot. The second rejected me on the spot. I came home feeling extremely hurt with myself but what I got me going was to remember this same exact quote you wrote. I'm still VERY afraid to feel my feelings of unworthiness. It's so dark and painful. But Jesus said if you fall on the cactus it's best to not leave the cactus stuff there.

Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 9:24 pm
by Vivi
- Teresa -

I have the same need to cry outloud for a while or a long time, but after my husband watched this video of which you are talking about and asked me the same thing, he also said I was in need of attention. I allowed that to completely shut me down.

I agree 100% with Perry. Be careful there because we often hear what Aj and Mary says and quote them to ourselves and others and it might not be especifically helpful for that particular case.

My husband is my best friend and we tell our of truths to one another. He knows secrets about me that many people in my family doesn't know because I feel he doesn't judge me. I feel comfortable sharing things with him. But as soon as he told me exactly what you've written (in almost as same words) I had struggled a lot more to feel my stuff. And after that he has only been trying to cry silently because he took those words down to every letter. I think the key is analyse with our soul.

I received a thought or I thought myself this

Allow yourself to feel however you want to feel (in a loving way of course)

If you feel like screaming, scream, if your body, spirit and soul naturally feels like being silent then allow it.

Allow to feel how your soul wants to feel.
Your soul is your guide.


These are my thoughts.

Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 9:45 pm
by Vivi
- now Lisa -
I relate to what you are saying entirely.
I have so much anger, rage, deep grief that for me I need to feel how I want to feel. At the moment my comfort zone has been my house but even then I still worry about neighbors and sometimes my husband. my cats get very scared. I reassure myself that I need to do what's best for me, because my whole life I had sacrificed myself to be someone I know deep inside I'm not meant to be.

This post is helpful. I'm still quite fearful of crying in front of others. In the past when I allowed myself to cry at work my bosses and the people all came to shut me down. When I cried the second day I felt judgments of "ooh not again".
I also have huge fears of crying in front of a woman. But I think anyone in general, men or women.

I don't know if should create a post about this doubt I have.
I have a big problem of being humble to people to let them know in advance that i'll be processing my emotions. I feel like" I shouldn't have to tell others anything, it's my life, if they don't like deal with it" attitude. If anyone has any input on this I'd gladly appreciate too.

Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 11:17 pm
by Elvira
Hi All,
there seems to be a lot going on in this thread.

I would like to make a suggestion Vivi. I have witnessed babies, dogs and cats be very calm around people processing very difficult emotions. I think I would be asking myself why your cats would be terrified? It might also be useful for you to look at your LOA with the videos, this thread and your husbands comments.

All my best Elvira

Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2016 1:54 am
by LisaQ
Hi Vivi,

I often take a break in my bawling & prayer time to use the bathroom, and notice that both of my cats are silently and soundly sleeping, even though they are right against my wall and can hear everything. Even the chickens lay peacefully outside my window, preening themselves.
I think when we're fully owning our emotion, nothing in the environment gets disturbed (except maybe humans, who don't want to confront their own triggers of hearing another adult crying or screaming like a little child).

As I work through the terror of crying in front of my landlady and land mates, many different truths have been shown. A few are:
-Childhood belief that my mom would leave me if I cried after my dad suddenly left, so I shut down completely in this trauma. So for me, my survival has been linked to 'holding it in' around a woman in authority, especially.
-Fear of other people treating me with condescension and attacking my worth
-Fear of being rejected and ostracized by the group (for being different)
-Fear of being judged, or not understood by anyone around me
-Fear of losing my safety/security if I cry in front of the female authority
-Fear of being attacked if I express emotion or am different from the group

I remember Jesus shared that working through his blocking emotions (in other words, the emotions that initially caused us to shut down emotionally as children) were the hardest emotions he had to work his way through. I personally have never faced the level of terror and fear that I've been recently facing in having to potentially cry in front of all these people in my current residence.
So, it feels like this is challenging and confronting many addictions.

What's been joyous is that as I've worked my way through some of the terror that shut me down as a child, I've been able to deeply grieve some of the childhood trauma in a way that I've never done before, and it's just flowed out of me easily!

Re: Finding Space to Release Emotions

Posted: Wed Apr 27, 2016 4:40 am
by Nicky
Hi guys

I have been "away" from the forum for a couple of days and upon reading this thread, there is a lot of addiction going on here so the thread will now be locked.

Lisa, you are engaging in a few addictions. It is interesting how you created a thread about finding space to release emotions however, much of what is going on here is based on the opposite (avoiding emotion and entering into co-dependant exchanges with others) so it would be a good exercise to self reflect and explore further should you choose to. I will be issuing you with 1 AMBER STRIKE for the interactions within this thread as they are unloving and breach a number of the amber strike criteria found in the terms of use document.

Viviane, I am issuing you with a board warning for your general approach to forum posting that I have noticed elsewhere on the forum but also in this thread itself. I realise that you are new to the forum however you are engaging in a number of addictions while you have been posting so far, one of which has already been pointed out to you by your husband as you stated in this thread previously (see quote below):
I have the same need to cry outloud for a while or a long time, but after my husband watched this video of which you are talking about and asked me the same thing, he also said I was in need of attention. I allowed that to completely shut me down.
This engagement is in breach of the terms of use.

Thanks
Nicky