Where or how to express anger and rage

[Johanne]

I know that I have a lot of anger in me but like a lot of us, living in an appartment with neighbors that hear my toilet flush was somewhat a stopper for letting out my anger. This week I was watching again a video where Mary shows how she (I'll say it in my words) makes the energy that is stock flow to unblock her emotions. Here is the link to that video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmigKz-xPBQ and it is around 2 hours 10 near the end.

So these last couple of days, everytime I'd feel anger. I started banging very hard in the air like if on a wall and started swearing and wow. It took seconds and I would fall into the grief. I was amazed at how fast it was. I pray a lot also asking God to assist me in seeing the core emotion. If anyone as other tricks, I'm open to suggestions.

[Justin Crick]

Hi Johanne

It would be safe to say that the majority of my anger I have worked through whilst in the car. I find that I can really let go and say/scream everything I need to, without bothering anyone else. When I'm feeling angry, I'll often jump in the car and go and find a safe place nearby and just let it all out. If I'm really going spastic then it best not to driving somewhere at the same time.

Cheers
Justin

[Johanne]

Thank you Justin, I love that idea. And screaming is one thing I've been wanting to do a lot lately.

[Allegedly Dom]

Yeah, driving to a secluded place and parking to yell it out helped me too. Eventually I need to work through the blocks that don't allow me to cry in public but in the mean time, this helps. Also with trying to develop my voice further with singing and to meditate.

[LauraR]

Hello Joanne,
Thank you for your post to the video with Mary. I am very grateful. I watched the video showing Mary processing her emotions very soon after I read your post. The way she said she was giving sound and movement to the emotion made sense to me. Like that is something I can do! I tried to think of it similar to the way dancers express the music in movement. I didn't have a lot of "success" the first couple of times - because I do have a housemate that I don't want to scare. But yesterday I was alone in the house and was able to let go a bit and I felt quite a lot. I think I might have touched on a causal. For the first time that I can remember I actually sobbed - it felt good later and I could breathe deeper after.
I have also done what Justin suggested about yelling in the car after reading one of his posts. I am still very careful about who is around me, but it has felt good to express the emotion when I was actually feeling it instead of suppressing it. Many times I will feel emotion when I am driving home and I feel like crying or being angry and I say "just wait til you get home". By the time I get home, the moment has passed so to speak. I usually just want to get home - to get to my safe place - but now I will not. If I have to pull over and find a place to express at the moment I will.
I am doing my best to understand "this is just an emotion leaving me". It helps me not to get into judgement or self-blame. And I also need to understand that this is not about me being depressed or that I will cry today and then no more crying. All the error cannot leave me at once. I think I am getting that - maybe I was able to receive some truth yesterday after my cry.
Thank you again Joanne and Justin!
Laura

[Rita]

Hi Joanne,

Yes I do this too a lot.
Also I do it when I am blocked and not even aware of it, meaning I am totally 'fine' and on the go in my addiction of busyness and stuff to do.

How I become aware of my blockage is my 23 years old daughter who is nonverbal (down syndrome and autism).
She just sits there, is unresponsive, not smiling as usual, refusing to go and get dress etc.

Since listening to DT I know OMG it must be ME! Her behaviour must be caused by me.

Once the penny drops in me I shake and jump and stamp and scream and yell for a minute or more, wherever i am a few meters in front of her or in a different room (we live alone on a farm) it's like I am lifted up and put into a different scene of a movie...I walk over, ask her again, she is all smiles and gets dressed etc.

It's easy for me because she sort of teaches me. But if I would have known about DT when my other 3 children where young or still at home I probably by could have noticed their cues too. Their cues or behaviour response to my stressed or addictive or whatever damaging behaviour towards them. Instead of forcing them sort of in my facades to do what needs to be done right now.

My disabled child lacks intelligence to adapt to me like my other ones. So I am learning from her so so so much.
Lucky me I often think.

[Johanne]

You know Rita, I often think at how it would have been different to know about DT while my daughters were young. Different for me and different for them too.

[Amanda Stracey]

Hi Johanne

My understanding of the soul is that God created us as openly emotionally expressive beings and that as we encountered judgment, punishment and disapproval from the people in our environment we learned to fear the expression of emotion and we actively block and suppress ourselves now we are adults. The way back involves looking at all the blocks and resistances and addictions we now use.

Looking at anger specifically, your post reminded me a bit of this clip from 2013 at 1:21:40. Obviously it's not exactly the same as your case but it does look at living in close proximity to other people and what addictions we might have that cause us to live close to others rather than somewhere where we won't be so suppressed.

http://youtu.be/ZEnmTaRk-A4

Also I would recommend the talks in 2014 on Understanding Your Emotional Self. As a taster here is clip specifically on judging emotions and what fears that helps us avoid.


http://youtu.be/O8vjvvp_OlM